YIKES! Fear and Stress...What to do???
There certainly are so many reasons to be afraid…right? Perhaps, if you are reading this, it is making me nervous at this moment because I am afraid of your critique! Or, perhaps I do not want to get on this plane, I am going to fall at this height, I am going to fail, I am going to die if I do this, or this bug is going to bite me and send me to my grave! YIKES.
So, from a stress management situation what are the more simplistic ideas that we can implement to reduce our natural flight/fight mechanism? For one it is important to understand that mental imagery plus physical responses creates fear. In other words, what we visualize mentally has an effect upon our physical response systems. Additionally, being aware of how we manage our physical stature can have an effect upon our mental systems. So, when confronted with a stressful situation or a fear invoking situation consider the following:
- If possible prior to the event imagine what it is like to be in a fearful situation and make a mental note of how your body looks. Are you standing up straight or hunched over? Are your muscles tight or relaxed? Are you breathing deeply (not rapidly) compared to shallow breaths?
- You never know what the result of a situation that invokes fear or stress will be, so focus upon the best scenario in your mind. See success clearly in your mind. (Or you killing the bug without fear and not being bitten! Silly example but true!)
- The following statement may seem obvious but it is often overlooked as a way to eliminate fear due to stressful events: Make sure you sleep, drink lots of water, eat well, exercise and avoid stimulants.
- Drive YOUR bus…Take responsibility for when things happen. You are in charge of your behavior, both physically and mentally, and no one else has that control.
Have total responsibility for how you feel. You must remember to present yourself with a posture and body language that communicates confidence even if you are afraid of speaking in front of a group or getting on an airplane. Choose your perspective and keep control of your thoughts.
If you can remember that you are in charge of your environment you will realize that the things that you may consider to be out of your control are actually IN your control. This is a psychologically found fact (Sanders & Suls, 2008). Practice imagining best case scenarios and wonderful outcomes and the things that stress you out, due to fear, will fade away.
Sanders, G.S., & Suls, J. (2008). Social Psychology of Health and Illness. Hillsdale, NJ.
Dr. Lisa Samuel

















